As some of you will know, I lost my husband Phil suddenly and unexpectedly on Saturday 29th May at home.
This is his favourite pic of us at our friends wedding in 2005 and I'm blogging this partly as a completeness to my blog and partly as a way of screaming my pain to the world (not that I have many visitors - but you know what I mean).
We had the funeral yesterday and I think we gave him the best send off we possibly could. He is buried in a natural burial ground in a woodland very near to where I live and he was taken there on a tractor and trailer driven by his boss. He had worked on the same farm for over 20 years. We had a short service with his best friend doing an amazing tribute to him, then beer and sandwiches (always a favourite of Phil's) afterwards from the back of his truck. In the evening there was more beer and pizza to watch the England World Cup match in front of this huge new telly Phil had just bought - he was so looking forward to the World Cup!
Although the day was difficult and excrutiatingly painful at times I was surrounded by our families and so many good friends that I had the strength to get through it and appreciate their company - and there were many laughs as we remembered Phil in all his glory!!
I think you gave your Phil the best send off ever... and I mean that because it is so hard to get it right so that you feel you have done him proud ...believe me ...you did from the sound of it ... he is probably watching the matches over your shoulder.
ReplyDeleteThere seems two ways people cope ...talking it out of their system and sharing the anger and happt times or keepimg it all private and cherishing the memories and things that make you smile,lone.
I took the first path and talked the ears off anyone who would listen...and it helped me ...you can always tell us, here, how angry you are and share happy times ...or just tell us how you are coping. You are too young to be a widow ...at least I was 53....so my heart goes out to you.
Loads of love and Hugs xxxxxxx
Anne I think you did him proud. It sounds to me exactly what he would have wanted. I am glad you had both families and good friends around you, you will need them too in the coming days and months and I am sure they will be there for you. Sending you lots of love and hugs. xxxx
ReplyDeleteYour send off to Phil sounds amazing to me Anne and I truly believe Phil loved it :)
ReplyDeleteI was thinking of you and I'm here if you need me.
love and hugs xxx
you gave your man a truly fitting send off - he sounds as if he was one heck of a good guy and my heart goes out to you.
ReplyDeleteGentle hugs.
xx